A rose by any other name
When PJ began dating Lara, his first girlfriend after our breakup, I was upset. In order to deny her existence, I refused to use her name. I only met her once face-to-face, so that wasn't a problem, but writing about her in my old paper-bound journal required creativity. Contrast that my recent entries about T's current girlfriend Kathy. Her identity is not masked through use of a nickname or initial. Previously when trying to disrespect a woman's role, I refused to call her by name and now I use that name as that sign of disrespect.